Taming Your Feelings! SHHHH – Feelings Present! Part 1
SHHHH! … Feelings Present! Part 1
Will you tame your feelings or will you let them control you? … Discover how by entering the heart of the matter – your feelings – The Most Sought After Frontier. – If understanding your feelings hasn’t been your priority, shouldn’t it be?
Did you start your day with LOVE or HATE?
This is the underlying question to the quality of our lives!
Singers sing…musicians/artists create…poets write…birds chirp….babies coo …children laugh…lovers swoon. When we listen and look around us we notice joy, rhythm, harmony and balance evident everywhere in creation.
Yet, on the flip side, we see storms erupt…arguments break out…dogs fight …people holler…babies cry…armies clash…dreams shatter and violence and abuse seem to be everywhere.
Assuming that Nature wants harmony and balance, why do discordance and disharmony often suddenly leap out of nowhere?
Could it be something hidden deep inside of us and within all of nature that allows for calmness and serenity one moment and trouble and violence the next?
Could it be an invisible force that exists within us and all of nature that moves us to either exhilaration or anxiety, calmness or turbulence … actions or reactions….positives or negatives?
If so, what can we do about this constant state of flux?
Can we control our life’s experiences by taming our feelings?
The answer is a resounding YES!
We can control how we experience life by making the conscious decision to act according to the deepest feelings or desires within our hearts and directing them, based on our value system toward our desired outcome, rather than react according to the momentary situation and the impulse which has triggered our behaviour.
It seems that the majority of people react to what is going on in their lives based on their Emotions – otherwise known as feelings!
Feelings can bind people together or drive a wedge between them which can be so deep that to an outward observer there appears to be no rhyme or reason for what occurs on this planet. For example, one well educated dentist in Mexico told me that they hate the Spanish for the pain and hurt that had been done to them 400 or so years ago.
Why was that I asked?
Because of what they did to us as a people and because everytime we see a child with blue eyes show up in a family, it reminds us of what happened.
At the time I lived mostly in my intellect and found this to be quite amazing as the traumas had occurred so many hundred of years ago and he was an educated man… but one who had not dealt with the force of his feelings against the victimizers.
The force of feelings can also lead to division or separation within ourselves that can move us to misconceptions, and poor communication, as well as health challenges, affecting our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial and social well-being.
We want to see smiling faces welcoming us at all times and instead we get frowns and what appears to be rejection.
This being the case, let’s examine what exactly an emotion or feeling is.
Besides being an energy, feelings are also habits, usually formed in us from the moment of conception. These feeling habits continue to deepen within us, until they operate on a level that is unconscious to many of us, most, if not all of the time. In fact, there is evidence indicating that habits can be passed on generationally in the dna. But more of that later.
Now, all of us need to have certain habits so that we do not have to consciously choose or decide the steps to go through before taking each and every action. However, when these habits take control and make us operate on levels that do not allow us to perform from a level of love, joy, peace and harmony, we may find that the goals and dreams we wish to achieve are interfered with
It becomes even worse if our subconscious habits hurt us or others. In such cases it becomes clear that we need to become conscious of these habits and learn how to take control of them in a cognizant, loving way.
We’ve all seen how cows will always walk down the same trail on their way to their watering hole. These trails are known as “cow trails”. Just as cows have these well entrenched habits, so do we. When we automatically click into them we are clicking into our own “cow trails” or subconscious feeling habits.
Sometimes, we can feel exhilarated, like we’re on a mountain top; other times we can feel devastated and hit the depths of anger, frustration, despair and hopelessness…or we may feel as though we have no feelings at all. We may even experience great emptiness within. If this is the case, then all aspects of our life – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, and social may not be the way we’d like them to be.
Dr. Axline, a psychologist, once asked her teenage daughter how she turned out so well. Her daughter replied that it wasn’t because of what her Mom said or did but how she, the daughter, felt her Mom was feeling at the time!
Apparently, children, from birth to age 7 –10, depending on their age and sex, live in their feelings. That means that whatever they see, or hear, touch, taste, smell or experience is being registered by their brain and stored in the cells of their body and all of them are connected to a buried subconscious feeling. This is powerful@
However, what is important to note are the factors operating to start and set the habits in motion. They are as follows:
# whether it will bring them pleasure or pain as an organism.
# whether or not rewards or punishment are given at the time of their reaction to the trigger and their consequent behaviour.
# whether or not they have any control in making their choice to react or if they have no choice and must do as someone else dictates.
And then there are the feelings which contribute to their self-image…Feelings that were established, imparted from others and built upon before they had a conscious choice to not accept what was hurtful to them.
The truth of the matter is that emotions may also be said to be E-Motions or energy in motion. They give us the impetus to do or not to do…to take care of ourselves or to give up.
So, for those of you who are searching for the Key to Unlock the Secrets to a life filled with all the good things…such as Love, Harmony, Balance, and Abundance, it is good to understand that you will also need the ability and the empowerment to deal with negative feelings that will appear.
It is all in knowing about The Heart of The Matter…E-Motions or Feelings and how to tame them and change them at will, so that they do as you wish and not vice versa.
E-Motions are the Most Sought After Frontier that everyone wants but few ever have the courage to find.
Will you be one of those few who have the courage to enter into The Heart Of The Matter… Feelings?
Remember when feelings are no longer covered up, it becomes easy to recognize them and tame them instead of letting them control you and your daily life.
To the successful taming of your emotions,